• Wednesday, 25 October 2017


    Some homespun psychologists claim that men think about sex every five minutes. According to the same source, women have “indecent” thoughts crossing their minds every ten minutes. Some people have no problems with their fixation on sex. Others feel ill at ease being preoccupied with sex. The latter go at any lengths in an attempt to lead nature by the nose. At times they succeed in doing so.There are quite a few categories of people who believe they would be better off without sex. First off, members of the so-called anti-sexual movement sit on top of the list. Those weirdos foam at the mouth arguing that sex is bad for your health etc. However, there are others who find sex troublesome.Thinking about sex can distress military men on a mission, young novices who are about to take vows, and lovers who sometimes get separated for a number of reasons.Athletes, writers and scientists try to avoid thinking about sex for most pragmatic purposes e.g. win a tournament, write a book or make a scientific discovery. The above professionals fall under a classic case of sublimation whereby a person represses his sex urge and redirects the energy into pursuing his creative ambitions.According to the Freud theory, the human culture is a product of sublimation.

     1: Go on a diet. It is thought that a severe diet can lower the production of sex hormones. The fewer the calories, the weaker the sexual drive. People are said to think less about sex after reducing calorie content of their food by 40% .Do not forget that your diet should be free from the so-called aphrodisiacs i.e. spices (pepper, cinnamon, ginger, basil etc.), nuts, mushrooms, eggs,sea food, meat, fish, olives, honey and chocolate. More importantly, refrain from drinking alcoholic beverages.

    2: Exercise The protagonist in the Italian movie. The Taming of the Shrew(no relation to a comedy by Shakespeare) would start violently chopping up firewood every time he saw a beauty passing by. Strenuous physical exercise can be a good help in a battle between the spirit and the flesh.You can go to a gym if your ax is not at hand in the right moment. Alternatively, you can do a hundred of sit-ups or push-ups.

    3: Try mortification of the flesh Historically. Mortification was one of the most effective ways of overcoming temptations of the flesh. Many monks would subjugate their bodies by abstinence, ascetic discipline and self-inflicted suffering. For example, Saint Benedict, the founder of Benedictine order, would rush to the brier every time he felt the onset of sexual arousal.

    4: Take medication. Rumor has it that cooks in the Soviet army were given special orders to slip bromide into the food of draftees so that the latter may be less preoccupied with sex. Other drugs can also help keep libido down: antidepressants, tranquilizers, beta blockers, diuretics, sedatives, and some drugs for treating cardiovascular diseases.However, the above are normally prescribed for treating conditions that are not by any means related to sexual arousal. It is dangerous to take them without seeing your doctor first.

     5: Practice extreme sports and activities Going in for some energetic athletic activity usually leads to an increase in the production of adrenaline, an important hormone that has widespread effects on circulation, the muscles, and sugar metabolism. However, a higher level of adrenalin can never trigger erection. You can practice martial arts (Thai boxing, karate etc.) or a variety of extreme sports e.g. diving, skydiving, mountaineering and the like. You may as well join the army or a soccer fan club. Some people claim that a good fight is better then sex.

     6: Understand that there is nothing wrong with thinking about sex. It’s entirely natural, and everyone does it. Biologically speaking, it is next to impossible to stop thinking about sex completely, as your body instinctively drives to reproduce. However, it’s possible for that urge to become more like background noise as you go through your everyday life.Know your triggers Sex is not always the topic that gets you thinking about sex. Sometimes pure boredom with life begins an automated response that looks for entertainment, and eventually leads to thinking about sex. There are a number of triggers. If you can identify your triggers, you can limit their capacity to veer you into thinking about sex. Stress is a huge trigger for sex, and thinking about sex.

     7: Develop your willpower. If you truly want to stop thinking about sex, you need to make a commitment to yourself and stick with it. At a minimum, you should make a goal to curb your sexual thoughts so that they don’t distract you from your other daily activities, such as work or school. If you need help remembering your commitment, wear a piece of jewelry or a simple string around your wrist that will remind you to power through the temptation to get lost in thought.Sublimate your urges Sublimation, or sexual transmutation, occurs when you translate your sex drive into creative energy. Take the time you’d usually spend thinking about sex and instead devote it to a creative hobby, such as writing, painting, sculpting, or playing music. If it’s something you really enjoy, it can provide you with an alternate avenue for catharsis and satisfaction.

    8: Distract yourself with other activities. If you’re not in a place where you can do a creative hobby, try exercising. If you’re working out hard enough, you shouldn’t be able to focus on much of anything. Alternatively, get lost in an engrossing book or movie, or take up a team sport. While outside activities are probably not going to get thoughts about sex completely off your mind, it will help to facilitate other thoughts outside of sex.Don’t leave too much idle time in your schedule Everyone needs time to relax, but finding yourself with hours of time on your hands might lead to backsliding. Schedule your day full with events and activities to better yourself. Leave a bit of time at the end of the day for reflection and relaxation, but not so much that you’ll get bored.

    9: Tell someone about your problem. As terrifying as this may sound, it is one of the most powerful and effective approaches. If you are lucky enough to know someone who is not judgmental and will understand and appreciate your goal (and forgive you, if the circumstances warrant), talk to them at least once a day about how you are doing. Have a frank conversation any time you feel compelled to think or act in ways you would rather not. It is surprising how much less compelling these thoughts appear when brought into the light of day, and how much less powerful.If all else fails, try to think of something decidedly unsexy Car horns, sewage nails on a chalkboard — what ever it is that completely turns you off, dredge up that image if you need to stop thinking about sex suddenly. It should be the mental equivalent of taking a cold shower.Don’t rely on this technique too often, as it’s not a long-term solution. Use it only for situations in which you need to stop thinking about sex immediately.If you are in a relationship, do something for your partner. Use your sexual drive as a resource to act in a loving and caring manner. Be romantic!If there is one person that turns you on like crazy, try to discreetly avoid that person.
    Don’t frustrate yourself over sexual thoughts. Remember that everyone else thinks about sex too. What matters is that you can still go on with your daily life without letting something as silly as sex bother you.Talk to your parent of the same sex, you will be amazed at how wise they are.If you are religious, you may consider visiting your local priest/pastor/religious Advisor, he/she might have various techniques to help you. Remember that you are not alone.Spend your time reading books or listening to music.Meditation works too!Relax and be cool.